Friendships are never formed out of formulas; they're birthed in shared time.
I have discovered this to be true, but I'm venturing into a new and unexpected season in my life where He has brought forward sister-friends from places that I never imagined. Mid-life friendships seem to be more solid, not flighty or uncertain. There's a sweetness in knowing that God brings to us sweet, endearing friendships when you least expect it, or when it is so needed. I love what you shared!
I always enjoy and glean from anything you write, Denise. Thank you!!!!💐
So very true - all of it! I’m in my early 60s and finding the female friendships I now have are fewer BUT more substantial. No longer surfacey. We share elder care (our aging parents) concerns, retirement travel ideas/plans, and, of course, graying hair and wrinkling skin. 🤣 We cry! We go deep ... and we cherish time together as a soul-refreshing gift.
The ebb and flow of friendship, particularly after having children has been very bittersweet. I seem to accumulate many acquaintances but rarely close friends. As you say, investment of time builds a friendship, which people are not willing to sacrifice (in my experience) if they don't feel a strong connection immediately ( or because of prejudging/ assumption they can't see the potential for a good friendship ). It is wearying and frustrating, but I'm hopeful to see change.